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In the sterile environment of a family courtroom, truth isn't always the default setting— proven facts are. When you are divorcing a high-conflict personality or a narcissist, the end of the relationship is rarely a clean break. Instead, once a narcissist feels discarded, they often become adversarial. They view the legal system not as a venue for resolution, but as a weapon to intimidate, harass, and force a lopsided settlement through manipulation and deceit. To survive th

(Anonymised. For educational purposes only.) There’s a cold, uncomfortable truth no one tells people walking into the family-violence and family-law system: You will leave almost every meeting with your lawyer either: (1) more anxious than when you arrived, or (2) unrealistically confident of victory. There is rarely anything in between. The reason isn’t personal. It isn’t because your lawyer is malicious or incompetent. It’s because this is how profitable legal practice work

Executive Summary This White Paper evaluates the ACT Domestic and Family Violence Risk Assessment and Management Framework (DFV-RAMF) against established international standards and internal government mandates. While intended to provide a coordinated response to family violence, the framework exhibits significant internal inconsistencies, systemic gender biases, and a fundamental departure from the ISO 31000:2018 risk management standards mandated by the ACT Government. The

A section 128 certificate refers to section 128 of the Evidence Act 1995 (Cth/ACT/NSW) . It allows a witness — including YOU — to give evidence that might otherwise incriminate you , without that evidence being usable against you in future criminal proceedings . In other words: It lets you answer questions fully and truthfully without risking self-incrimination (except for perjury). This is crucial in FVO hearings, because they are civil proceedings, but often involve alleg

(A real case study, anonymised. A practical guide for respondents.) Most people assume family-violence hearings are conducted like any other civil matter — in front of the public, with transparency, accountability, and scrutiny. But respondents quickly discover something different: your ex-partner’s lawyer will very often try to shut the courtroom . And if you don’t know your rights, you may find yourself facing the State’s coercive power alone , without the support or witnes

(A real case study. Names and identifying details have been changed.) Most people assume that Family Violence Order (FVO) proceedings are orderly, structured, and evidence-based. But what actually unfolded in Courtroom 8 on a Friday morning late last year tells a very different story — one that exposes some of the deepest structural flaws in the family-violence system: overbooking, lack of evidence, procedural shortcuts, and the quiet, unseen pressure placed on courts and lit

A short companion note to steer readers of “The Misandry Bubble” toward local facts and practical reforms. The central thrust—that perverse incentives around separation harm men, children, and society—tracks closely with Anglosphere experience, Australia included. The essay was published on The Futurist blog The incentives lens is the useful bit for reform. Read the original first, then the notes below. Full text: https://jdfusa.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/themis

This is a thoughtful, insightful, long-form essay, The Misandry Bubble describes how incentives in modern Western societies have shifted against men—and why that matters for families and policy. It was published on The Futurist  blog..  The core thesis in one paragraph The executive claim is that the West now undervalues men and overvalues women; law and policy forcibly transfer resources in ways that create perverse incentives, vilify male nature, and ultimately harm both s

Divorce and separation are not just legal or financial events; for many men they’re a high-risk period for suicide. In 2024, 3,307 Australians died by suicide; over three-quarters (76.5%) were men. The age-standardised rate was 18.3 deaths per 100,000 for males versus 5.5 for females—about a 3.3:1 ratio.  What the numbers show here at home Relationship breakdown is a leading risk factor. In 2024, “problems in spousal relationship circumstances”—which the ABS notes includes s

The message below is part of a campaign by Kilo4Delta. The concerns raised about the Family Court system are now formally on record.A Notice of Intention to Commence Proceedings has been issued and served on the Commonwealth. At the same time, six Federal e-petitions have now been approved and opened for public signatures. These petitions are not symbolic. They are formal parliamentary instruments.And numbers matter. This is where your support becomes critical. What We Need Y

A recent decision of the NSW District Court has made an important — and largely under-appreciated — shift in Australian law: emails and text messages can constitute “property” for the purposes of criminal law. While the case arose in a criminal appeal, its implications extend well beyond assault law and directly into family law, property disputes, evidence handling, and allegations of coercive or unlawful conduct during separation. This is one of those decisions that will not

Divorce and family violence allegations can deeply affect anyone involved, but men in Australia face unique challenges that often go unnoticed. The combination of relationship breakdown and false accusations of family violence can lead to severe mental health struggles, sometimes ending in tragic outcomes like suicide. This article explores how these factors impact men’s mental health, supported by Australian statistics, and highlights the urgent need for awareness and suppor

Every year, tens of thousands of men across Australia are served with Family Violence Orders (FVOs). Some of those men deserve it. Some do not. We don't know many because 80% to 90% of the roughly 170,000 or so FVO applications in Australia each year ARE NEVER PROVEN . Most of them are never even tested in Court. Not because they the respondents all guilty of family violence. But because the system is stacked against contesting — a process that is costly, confusing, and care

For years, Australian men facing false or exaggerated allegations under family-violence law have had almost no recourse. Once a complaint is filed, the machine takes over — police issue or pursue an order, courts err on the side of caution, and even when claims collapse, accountability is rare. That may now be changing. In February 2025, the South Australian Court of Appeal handed down a quietly revolutionary decision in MT v SE [2025] SASCA 8. The case doesn’t rewrite the l

Every year, thousands of interim Family Violence Intervention Orders (FVIOs) are made across Victoria — often within hours of a complaint. They are issued “on the papers,” sometimes by police, sometimes by registrars, and almost always without testing evidence in court. So how many of those orders are later found to be false, exaggerated, or unsubstantiated? The uncomfortable truth is that no one knows — because the system doesn’t measure it. But what we do know, from multip

In Victoria, more than 90 per cent of Family Violence Intervention Orders (FVIOs) are made by consent — usually “by consent without admissions.” On paper, this looks like efficiency. In reality, it often reflects coercion through circumstance, exhaustion, or fear rather than genuine agreement. The situation is similar across Australia, but we have solid data for Victoria that other states don't provide as transparently. For thousands of men each year, “consent” is not a free

(Compact Magazine, Oct 2025) In her essay “ The Great Feminization ” , Helen Andrews advances a bold thesis: the phenomenon often described as “wokeness” is not primarily an ideological shift, but the result of the demographic feminisation of major institutions.  Key arguments Institutional tipping-points matter Andrews notes that a range of professions recently tipped from majority male to majority female: e.g., law schools became majority women in 2016, the staff of New Yor

The ACT’s Domestic and Family Violence Risk Assessment and Management Framework (DFV-RAMF) was meant to align agencies, improve safety, and standardise responses to family violence. But it’s become a closed-loop system — one that often pre-decides outcomes , omits evidentiary balance, and lacks any form of external scrutiny. Reform doesn’t need to be radical. It needs to be competent, transparent, and measurable. Here are five immediate steps that would make the DFV-RAMF con

If you only know one line about family violence in Australia, make it this: at least one in three victims is male. That’s not a slogan; it’s a summary of multiple official datasets and peer-reviewed studies. The reality is complex, often uncomfortable, and it demands policy responses that support all victims, regardless of gender. Why this article Public policy should follow evidence, not narratives. Below is a concise review of key statistics on male victimisation, with link

<This is general information, not legal advice.> Most men are blindsided by an allegation or an interim Family Violence Order (FVO/AVO/IVO). One minute you’re living your life; the next, you’re served papers, locked out of your home, and facing restrictions you don’t fully understand. The first 48 hours matter. What you do (and don’t do) in those early moments can decide the outcome months down the track. 1. Stay Calm and Stay Polite Shock and anger are normal, but how you ha